Every single one of us on this Earth speaks a unique dialect of our own.
Externally, many of us share what appears to be the same languages, such as English, Russian, French, German, Hindi, Mandarin etc. However, the words that sound the same in those external languages have different, unique internal meanings to each of us, creating a vocabulary that is unmistakably our own. Even simple words describing commonplace objects, such as "train", "stone", "sky" mean different things to all of us. For some of us the word "train" evokes an image of a cross-country journey with Mum to visit our loving grandparents, for some it's about that exciting Trans-Siberian adventure with your girlfriend 20 years ago, and for some it brings up a grim image of a train transporting PoWs to a labour camp. Yet for others, it is just a picture in a book. No two subconscious word definitions are exactly the same.
What to speak of when you put together a sentence! Things get even more complicated. The subtle nuances in emphasis, tone of voice, volume, speed and so on, as well as the intent of your words and the context in which they are spoken, both external and internal, make a huge difference to how those words are perceived by your listener, who is a speaker of another internal language.
There were ten people in the class, and when we compared our translations, not a single line was the same.
I saw a fascinating illustration of this today. I study linguistics and languages at university. (I have been enamored with these subjects since the day I pulled my Dad's German dictionary out of the bookshelf when I was about five.) Today in our translation class we were given a simple poem to translate into Spanish. There were ten people there, and when we compared our translations, not a single line was the same. Each person has explained their understanding of the poem line by line and what seemed like an obvious meaning to me was understood completely differently by others. This really brought the reality of different dialects spoken by each of us to the front for me. Whenever you say something to another person, it will always be interpreted into his or her own dialect.
How is this related to emotional freedom? Directly. If as adults we often have trouble comprehending each other, imagine how difficult it can be for children. We were all were children once, right? As a five-year old you didn't know that the day your Dad shouted at you he was feeling really stressed and under pressure at work. Perhaps all he said was that you always always make a mess, and he didn't literally mean always, but the way he said it meant to you that you were not good enough. That boy at school actually liked you and that is why he said you were ugly (one of those strange things boys say to get a girl's attention), but at 12, how were you to know that?
So many of our emotional issues come from not comprehending another person's dialect, and from them not knowing how to speak ours.
So many of our emotional issues come from not comprehending another person's dialect, and from them not knowing how to speak ours. As time goes by, the situations may be forgotten, but the often disempowering meaning we attach to those communications can stay with us for many years.
To become emotionally free it is important to clear those misinterpretations out of your subconscious, and one of the best tools for doing it is EFT. EFT may not be able to teach us one another's dialect, but it can heal deep emotional wounds caused by apparently harsh words and actions.
If you are ready to start, give us a ring or send us a message today.
Let's be emotionally free.
I've just conducted a mini-audit of my limiting beliefs about financial abundance and was shocked to discover how many I had despite years of working on myself (before I've learnt EFT). These beliefs came from family members, school, mass media, negative interpretation of my own life experiences. Definitely a lot to clear with EFT or other methods! Luckily, once cleared, they won't hamper my progress any more.
If you would like to find out what your beliefs are, complete the following five statements honestly and fully. You don't have to post the answers here, but if you choose to post at least something, I would appreciate it.
(I got this list from EFT Master Carol Look)
Spend at least 15 minutes doing that. Fill in whatever comes up from the depths of your mind, not just what you want to acknowledge consciously, even if you don't like what you get. Like me, at first you might only get one justification or limiting belief per statement, but keep going and get all of those deep-seated limiting beliefs about money. Review your list and add whatever you missed.
Voila! Meet your limiting beliefs that you will need to dispel before you can make financial progress. These are called tail-enders in EFT, because whenever you try to get yourself to make more money, they pop up as "yes, but..." even if you are not consciously aware of them. They are your real affirmations that your subconscious mind refers to whenever it needs to deal with a money-related matter.
I'm going to use EFT on mine because EFT is one of the most effective methods of dealing with negative beliefs. I have used it for many other limiting beliefs, both mine and other people's, with good success. If you wish, we can try it on yours too, and see for ourselves what change it makes.
Consider it a dare. There is nothing to lose but our limiting beliefs!
Does being emotionally free mean being free from emotion? Does it mean you are indifferent to everything and unfeeling?
That would be pretty terrible. Not being able to love your wife and children, feel excited about a family holiday to Queensland or your team winning at footy, happy about your success at work or great weather, sad about the passing of your pet etc. would make life dull and intolerably boring. Such emotions as grief and sadness are also natural, provided they do not consume your life, and not being able to feel them would deprive us of many valuable lessons.
Luckily, emotional freedom does not mean all these things. Being emotionally free can be defined as being free from limiting and unconstructive emotions that stand in your way of being happy and fulfilled. If getting angry at your spouse or children spoils your relationships, fear of public speaking undermines your career growth, fear of flying does not let you enjoy holidays away from home, unhappy memories make you depressed, I'm sure you would agree that freedom from these emotions would make your life better.
Emotional freedom is closely related to emotional intelligence (more on that later). However, exercising your emotional intelligence may require some effort, while emotional freedom allows you to deal with events and circumstances naturally. The reason is that the first is predominantly the domain of the conscious mind, while the other is ruled more by the subconscious.
The more you use EFT to deal with negative emotions, the more emotionally free you become. With every application you chip away at the emotional baggage, making it lighter. The sooner you start, the happier you will be.
Have you ever been angry, upset or frustrated at yourself for not being able to “just get over it” and do something you need or want to do despite no apparent good reason for such inability?
The vast majority of us always carries around some emotional baggage, a collection of emotional experiences and their subconscious interpretations from the past that now affect our lives in various ways, often limiting and counter-productive. I define emotional baggage as any emotions and limiting beliefs that persistently get in the way of your happiness and that you haven't been able to successfully overcome up to now.
Emotional baggage can be defined as any emotions and limiting beliefs that persistently get in the way of your happiness and that you haven't been able to successfully overcome up to now.
Emotional baggage is what causes self-sabotage despite our best intentions whenever we find ourselves feeling unable to keep our commitments and achieve our goals, have positive relationships with others, or attain whatever we consider to be success in life (definitions of success is a good topic for another post). Sometimes these old emotions are the only thing that stands between us and our goals, or the next step we need to take on our life journey, or a harmonious relationship. For example, the hurt you experienced in a past relationship may prevent you from investing fully in a promising new one. The fear of rejection caused by your schoolmates’ ridicule of your theatre performance can prevent you from advancing your career through public speaking.
Emotional baggage is tightly interrelated with limiting beliefs and convictions that we have accumulated over this and possibly other lifetimes. We form those beliefs both based on our interpretation of the countless emotional experiences that we have had in life, and on the beliefs formed and passed to us by others, such as parents, teachers, friends and peers, mass media, religious institutions etc. “I’m just not good at this”, “I’m not worthy of love”, “All men are after one thing”, “Money is the root of all evil”, “Women only want money” etc. Oftentimes we form such beliefs unconsciously after having experienced pleasant or unpleasant emotions and feelings, especially those that are strong, and they stay with us, but out of our conscious awareness for many years and often for the whole lifetimes affecting how we deal with people and circumstances. Many such beliefs formed early in life would turn out to be completely irrational and misapplied if assessed within your experience as an adult. It is no wonder - as children we do not have the experience to understand the situation in all its context and we think everything is about us. Without conscious filters the subconscious mind interprets any subsequent emotional impressions that are similar to the original events as confirmations of those deeply held beliefs.
There are many ways to deal with emotional baggage, from self-evaluation to therapy. They work with different degrees of success. Some of them deal with your beliefs by forming new and empowering ones in place of those that are old and limiting, whilst others attempt to deal with the original emotional impressions that lead to those beliefs.
In any case, it is clear that intense emotional events from the past stay with us on some level right into the present and future. This has been known to humanity since the early ages. For example, ancient sages of India used the Sanskrit word samskaras to indicate those impressions that leave deep marks on our psyche and affect and condition our future responses to different stimuli that life gives us.
If you manage to remember and to think back to those events in your life, you might notice that many of them still cause intense emotions. This is a sure indicator that those issues still affect you.
If you manage to remember and to think back to those events in your life, you might notice that many of them still cause intense emotions. This is a sure indicator that those issues still affect you. The proponents of the relatively new field of energy balancing techniques, such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), hold that the way to eliminate that influence is to dissolve the emotional charge associated with those events. EFT presents the view that intense emotional experiences create blocks in the body’s energy system that cause emotional imbalance and, when severe enough, dis-ease in the body. EFT offers a way to nullify excessive emotional intensity of past and present events that has been proven effective in thousands of clinical cases. Men and women with lifelong phobias and fears, such as fear of flying, fear of getting intimate, fear of water, and other persistent emotional responses, such as anger, frustration, procrastination and guilt have found welcome and lasting relief by using EFT. The technique itself is pretty simple, and you can achieve amazing results with many emotional issues immediately upon learning it, although it requires a certain art of delivery achieved through further training and experience to deal with more complex emotional challenges.
It may appear incredible that simple tapping on certain points of your body while tuning into your emotional issues can do such a remarkable job of getting rid of emotional baggage that have weighed down on you for so long. I invite you to test it for yourself. EFT’s motto is “Try it on everything!” There is no harm in doing so, and it is easy to apply. And if, for some reason, it appears not to work for you, it is probably not due to EFT limitations. Please do yourself a favour and approach an EFT practitioner. Most types of persistent issues have been very successfully dealt with by EFT practitioners, and often the difference between success and failure is just the difference in training and experience of the person applying EFT.
If you are in Melbourne, you are welcome to speak with me, Serguei Levykin, trained EFT practitioner, to check whether I can help you. If, for any reason, your issue is beyond my capacity, I will gladly refer you to another specialist. Just remember, I am here to help.
And good luck with saying goodbye to that pesky emotional baggage!
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