Last night we tried something we haven't tried before - surrogate tapping. This is EFT tapping on yourself as if you were somebody else. It is an experimental technique that appears to be a little "out there", but the reported results from many users appear to defy the natural scepticism. It is supposed to work on the assumption that we are all energetically connected, and therefore we can affect others' emotional systems by affecting our own. In surrogate tapping you pretend you are the person who has the issue and try to guess what is going on for them and tap for that.
My wife has decided to wean our 2-year old daughter off breastfeeding yesterday and at night, the child cried for about 25 minutes non-stop. I was doing a practice EFT session with another practitioner over Skype and since the crying was distracting because I felt like I needed to go, find out what was going on and to try to calm my daughter down somehow, I asked my practice partner if we could try some surrogate tapping.
Following the procedure described in other tappers' reports, first, we tapped on my own feelings about my daughter crying. Then we tapped as if we were talking to her. And finally, we tapped as if we were her, using the language as close to the child's as we could manage. As we were finishing, the crying in the next room stopped. After the session my wife reported that my daughter cried herself to sleep. She woke up about 2 hours later and started crying again. At first, I tried to comfort her in other ways but she wouldn't stop. Then I put her back in bed, and did about 3 minutes of quiet surrogate tapping on myself. When I finished, my daughter was asleep again and she didn't wake us up for the rest of the night. Of course, the connection is not obvious and there is definitely room for scepticism, but I'm convinced it was the tapping that did the trick.
I'm going to try this tonight and see if the results stay the same. If I experience this working again, I am going to start recommending that other parents try this technique for calming down their children too.
P.S. The second night went even better with about 10 minutes of whimpering before falling asleep (as I did surrogate tapping). When she woke up in the middle of the night, I just quietly tapped for 3 minutes and she was fast asleep.
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