Have you ever been angry, upset or frustrated at yourself for not being able to “just get over it” and do something you need or want to do despite no apparent good reason for such inability?
The vast majority of us always carries around some emotional baggage, a collection of emotional experiences and their subconscious interpretations from the past that now affect our lives in various ways, often limiting and counter-productive. I define emotional baggage as any emotions and limiting beliefs that persistently get in the way of your happiness and that you haven't been able to successfully overcome up to now.
Emotional baggage can be defined as any emotions and limiting beliefs that persistently get in the way of your happiness and that you haven't been able to successfully overcome up to now.
Emotional baggage is what causes self-sabotage despite our best intentions whenever we find ourselves feeling unable to keep our commitments and achieve our goals, have positive relationships with others, or attain whatever we consider to be success in life (definitions of success is a good topic for another post). Sometimes these old emotions are the only thing that stands between us and our goals, or the next step we need to take on our life journey, or a harmonious relationship. For example, the hurt you experienced in a past relationship may prevent you from investing fully in a promising new one. The fear of rejection caused by your schoolmates’ ridicule of your theatre performance can prevent you from advancing your career through public speaking.
Emotional baggage is tightly interrelated with limiting beliefs and convictions that we have accumulated over this and possibly other lifetimes. We form those beliefs both based on our interpretation of the countless emotional experiences that we have had in life, and on the beliefs formed and passed to us by others, such as parents, teachers, friends and peers, mass media, religious institutions etc. “I’m just not good at this”, “I’m not worthy of love”, “All men are after one thing”, “Money is the root of all evil”, “Women only want money” etc. Oftentimes we form such beliefs unconsciously after having experienced pleasant or unpleasant emotions and feelings, especially those that are strong, and they stay with us, but out of our conscious awareness for many years and often for the whole lifetimes affecting how we deal with people and circumstances. Many such beliefs formed early in life would turn out to be completely irrational and misapplied if assessed within your experience as an adult. It is no wonder - as children we do not have the experience to understand the situation in all its context and we think everything is about us. Without conscious filters the subconscious mind interprets any subsequent emotional impressions that are similar to the original events as confirmations of those deeply held beliefs.
There are many ways to deal with emotional baggage, from self-evaluation to therapy. They work with different degrees of success. Some of them deal with your beliefs by forming new and empowering ones in place of those that are old and limiting, whilst others attempt to deal with the original emotional impressions that lead to those beliefs.
In any case, it is clear that intense emotional events from the past stay with us on some level right into the present and future. This has been known to humanity since the early ages. For example, ancient sages of India used the Sanskrit word samskaras to indicate those impressions that leave deep marks on our psyche and affect and condition our future responses to different stimuli that life gives us.
If you manage to remember and to think back to those events in your life, you might notice that many of them still cause intense emotions. This is a sure indicator that those issues still affect you.
If you manage to remember and to think back to those events in your life, you might notice that many of them still cause intense emotions. This is a sure indicator that those issues still affect you. The proponents of the relatively new field of energy balancing techniques, such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), hold that the way to eliminate that influence is to dissolve the emotional charge associated with those events. EFT presents the view that intense emotional experiences create blocks in the body’s energy system that cause emotional imbalance and, when severe enough, dis-ease in the body. EFT offers a way to nullify excessive emotional intensity of past and present events that has been proven effective in thousands of clinical cases. Men and women with lifelong phobias and fears, such as fear of flying, fear of getting intimate, fear of water, and other persistent emotional responses, such as anger, frustration, procrastination and guilt have found welcome and lasting relief by using EFT. The technique itself is pretty simple, and you can achieve amazing results with many emotional issues immediately upon learning it, although it requires a certain art of delivery achieved through further training and experience to deal with more complex emotional challenges.
It may appear incredible that simple tapping on certain points of your body while tuning into your emotional issues can do such a remarkable job of getting rid of emotional baggage that have weighed down on you for so long. I invite you to test it for yourself. EFT’s motto is “Try it on everything!” There is no harm in doing so, and it is easy to apply. And if, for some reason, it appears not to work for you, it is probably not due to EFT limitations. Please do yourself a favour and approach an EFT practitioner. Most types of persistent issues have been very successfully dealt with by EFT practitioners, and often the difference between success and failure is just the difference in training and experience of the person applying EFT.
If you are in Melbourne, you are welcome to speak with me, Serguei Levykin, trained EFT practitioner, to check whether I can help you. If, for any reason, your issue is beyond my capacity, I will gladly refer you to another specialist. Just remember, I am here to help.
And good luck with saying goodbye to that pesky emotional baggage!
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